True mercy & “First Comes Mary”

Cozumel, Mexico, 2006

Trying day; snow, snow, snow, and more snow! Up to our knees, still. sigh I haven’t seen so much snow since I was a kid living in Manitoba. I would walk to school in snowbanks two feet taller than myself. Last night I watched the wind hurling huge white flakes from the blackness onto my windows. My bitch Brinda is neck deep in it right now and eating it, shoving her snout in and chewing on it like a bone.

I’ve been stood up for an appointment with my medical herbalist. I received an excruciatingly sentimental Christmas card from my estranged sister. I can sense her reaching out, and my resistance, which I am working to overcome. She is lonely, I suspect. Our younger sister died in August, one of her few close friends. My anger has ebbed. She is all that remains of my immediate family and indeed, can drive me nuts but I do love her and miss her. So, I sent her a card and invited her to visit. If it happens or not, we shall see, but I know that I have tried, extended the olive branch. I decided as well, that our relationship doesn’t have to be perfect, or even healthy. I am going to have to be realistic, not expect so much, of her, of us. Considering all that we went through, I need to cut her a wide berth. She might need to realize that about me as well. I think we’re talking mercy here, which harkens the Mose Allison song/lyric, “Everybody’s cryin’ mercy but they don’t know the meaning of the word.” Used to cover it with my band the Zellots, I suppose because it rang true. Still does, so, we shall see.

Took our pup SamIAm’s stitches out this morning, then removed the cone which had become stinky and vile over the past two weeks. I was afraid to remove it before because I can never seem to get them back on properly. Poor thing. His neck and throat were raw and he was caked in dirt. I couldn’t really bathe his leg but put him in the tub and gently washed his neck. The wound on his thigh looked red after and I was really worried but I think it will be okay. We’ve given him chew toys to distract him from licking the cut. I am hoping it will scab over quickly and not become infected. It has taken a lot of vigilance and I devoted much of my day to his care. It really is like tending to a child, often.

I have commissioned a painting from Roderick. His work has always suggested Chagall to me though Roderick’ paintings are entirely abstract, do not depict people or faces. When I was on Salt Spring recently and visited his friend Lynn’s house, they showed me a new painting on the wall in her bedroom and it really knocked me out. I was going to hang an art poster in my lair upstairs, an image of David Bowie in white shirt and black vest holding a microphone in his outstretched hand, like an archer, but the frame was warped which meant it needed repair. I was in a quandry, thought perhaps I would look for some original art instead and then it struck me, why not a painting by Roderick? We’re both excited and I have a feeling it’s going to enhance my space brilliantly.

So sick of this weather! Here is a poem Roderick and I/AURAL Heather, have recently adapted to music.

FIRST COMES MARY

Enchanted morning swim, matrix of turquoise
lagoon. Silver palometas, yellow damselfish
caress my legs. Casa Ocio walls whitewashed
in cactus milk. Coconuts on the lawn.
Palm fronds bowing, rippling like sea anemones.
Heavy mahogany Hemingway digs.
Gecko chirps from behind a gilt frame.
Cool terrazzo marble pulls sand from toes.
Double rain showerhead. Full throttle bottle bar
under a palapa. I ponder the power
of local masonry to withstand hurricanes,
why it seems odd to name them after men.

Who are you going to meet at a resort?
Mail carriers from St. Catharines. Chiropractors
from Winnipeg. Programmed amusements for fraught
tourists wary of beggars. Cockatiels. Street vendors.
They recoil at pulque, mescal, even tequila,
unless it’s frozen, goes down like a Slurpee.
They tap into barrels of Corona or deposit derrières
under cabanas to read the latest Grisham.

Beneath an arbor of pink bougainvillea
sit my dubious nephew, delicate girlfriend,
doubts sinking slowly into the deep
purple cushions. We are going to town. To Playa.
Soft brown doves adorn neon.
Turtles bask on green tile mosaic. Red house
hosts a party tableau of orange Fanta, blue corn
flowers, flags of paper lace, chocolate pan de huevos.
We smell agave, chili, vanilla, coriander and anise,
hear mariachis blaze a mighty La Bamba. Gobble
pumpkin tamales, snow-white beach cooling our heels.
Mongrels expire at the feet of professional urchins
soliciting pesos. I will not cry, pick a white handkerchief
festooned with poinsettias embroidered by his mother.
No, I can’t buy them all. Though downcast he will not cry.
Our Lady of Guadalupe provides. Protects.

Christmastime but it’s Mary I see. Everywhere. To the faithful
the forever virgin manifests in reefs, rays and schools
of gobies and fairy basslet. In the crystalline water
of a cenote near Merida. In the mynah’s cry.
They live in Mother Mary’s shadow, warm as her embrace.
Queen of the Americas imperial as the iguana
gnawing hibiscus, sunning atop Tulum’s serpentine stairways.
She is wing carved into rock, three pelicans soaring above.

Even Mary, standing on the moon, presiding over the jungle
in a cloak of stars, could not stop the calendar,
marauding anthropologists or games to the death.
On every altar she towers over the crucifix, candles,
iron crosses, golden grapes. She is under their skin,
her miraculous portrait inked onto their muscles.
Hammered in copper, in tin. On murals.
Santa Maria assures and comforts all
her Mexican children. Heals. Entirely and ever
Virgin Mary is the horizon, sea and sky colliding
in azure, cobalt blues. Sacred to all. Taxi drivers.
Marimba players. Deejays and charros. She waves
from the cruise ships, watches over fire dancing,
blesses the portrait of two young lovers lost
in a car crash. Her people feel the harbour of her arms
around them. Her mercy. Infinite. Close.
First comes Mary. Holy Mary. Mother of God.

0 thoughts on “True mercy & “First Comes Mary”

  1. I haven’t spoken to my dad in a few years and I’m unsure of what to do about it. I understand some of what your going through! It can be a difficult situation.
    I like your poem, I always enjoy the images your words create.

    megan

  2. Hello Megan, yes, family relations are often difficult aren’t they? I would only say that it’s probably later than we think. I regret not expressing my feelings to a friend who was killed in September. Too late now…glad you like the poem. I’m going to visit your blog. Happy New Year!

  3. Mercy – Pity , Peace and love –
    I guess our families teach us that –
    I’m down to one baby bro ( just turned 48)
    Your words help me value my little baby “Gift” more.

  4. Hello Mary, families can teach, or not. I think it depends on our receptiveness, if we’re ready, we learn. Thanks for your kind words. Happy New Year!

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